“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” ~ Epictetus
Hey sweetie pies! It’s the first week of the year! And even though it is the 6th of January, most people are finally settling in and getting back on a regular schedule or normal routine. I know in a previous post, I mentioned my goals for the year and how I plan to achieve those goals. Well a lot of women in the world have the resolution to improve, discover, define and redefine their personal style. Unfortunately, many women don’t know where to begin when it comes to this issue. I have been on an unexpected journey of defining my personal style and I have been loving it! I don’t know if you all have noticed but I have changed my branding and label from a fashion blogger to a personal style blogger. I did this because I feel like I am sharing my personal style here on my blog, not necessarily high fashion. I know a lot of women struggle with this issue of defining or understanding their personal style. Well I am going to share 10 tips and/or suggestions to consider when trying to define your personal style.
1. Understand that personal style is just that… Personal.
Your style should be a reflection of you and your personality. Your style should be all about you and what you feel best in.
2. Know the difference between fashion and style.
Fashion is what the designers put on the runways and says, “This is what you should wear. This is hot.” Versus style, which is what makes it You. Style is how you make it personal and unique. I love trends as much as the next fashionista, but you don’t have to follow every single trend.
3. Learn your body and what works for your figure.
This is so important not only for fitting purposes but for self-loving purposes. I think that society today is only concerned with women having full breasts, slim waist, curvy thighs (with a thigh gap..??), big butt and slender legs. I am honestly thinking where they do that at?!? But in all honesty, women come in all shapes and sizes. You have long leans legs with short torso. Or perhaps a full chest with small hips? Perhaps you are small chested with big hips and a small waist. Not exactly everything will work for every body but you have to find what works for you. I honestly struggled with wearing things that didn’t flatter my figure. It usually came back to the fact that I was wearing things that weren’t the best fabric or the correct size. Don’t obsess over the number or label. Wear what looks and feels best on you!
4. Establish a budget. Know when to save vs. when to splurge
Even though this may come off as common sense, I mean really get into the nitty gritty of budgeting for your personal style. Learn what items to splurge on and when to save. There’s nothing wrong with investing in a valuable, timeless, structured handbag in a neutral color (great for in and out the office). But maybe think twice about spending major $$$ on some hot pink glitter strap stilettos. It is important that you give yourself a budget and by all means, STICK TO IT! I used to be terrible at going shopping ALL the time, spending ALL of this money just to feel like I still had nothing to wear! (Does this sound familiar to any of you, ladies??) I literally threw away hundreds of dollars because when I was shopping, I was shopping without purpose and not giving myself a budget. (If you all would like a separate post with further detail for budgeting, let me know!)
5. Know and understand your lifestyle.
This does play a part into your budget, but what I really mean by this statement is your day to day routine. Are you a stay at home mom of 2? Are you a CEO of your own company where you work 12+ hours? Are you a traveling nurse and you practically eat, sleep, breathe in scrubs? Or are you like me where you wear multiple hats throughout the day? It is important to consider these things because this will affect your set budget. If you are a doctor, you may not need as big of a budget as someone who is a fashion intern. Now of course I am not saying that if you wear a uniform then you shouldn’t buy any clothes, but your budget may not need to be as big as others…(lucky you). Also depending on what all you do throughout the day will play a role. For example, if you’re a working mom of 2 boys who play sports, a bandage pencil skirt, with a silk blouse and Louboutins might sound nice for the office, but not that great for your son’s soccer game after school. So definitely keep things like in consideration.
6. Learn what stores/shops work best with your figure and look that you’re going for.
I am not the size I was in college so stores like Charlotte Russe and Rue 21 are no longer my one stop shops anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I still shop there but it is mostly for accessories. Since I have been coming more into my own, I have learned that clothes from those stores don’t always work with my body and that is ok. I have to be careful of where I shop and to always always try things on!
Having a great foundation is key to having a stellar wardrobe and easy stress free style! Now what I mean by foundation is having those basic pieces that will go with any and everything! It is important to have those basic functional pieces so that you can add pieces (budget friendly of course) to continuously build your wardrobe. I have briefly spoken on having basic pieces in previous posts and I plan on doing more detailed posts about this in the future so stay tuned.
8. Understand that your personal style Can and Will change!
I am often baffled at how people expect their style to remain the same for years and years. Honestly, I feel like if your style isn’t evolving even in the slightest, something is wrong. I say this because of a number of reasons. For one, different factors in your life are changing such as your lifestyle, budget, YOUR BODY! As we get older, these factors are definitely changing, especially if we have children, get a new job, get married or get a divorce. Believe it or not, these factors can affect your personal style directly or indirectly. Me personally, my style has evolved so much over the past few years and I have been loving it! It is such a journey for me and so much fun!
9. Confidence is key!
This is self-explanatory but yes hunty, love it, rock it and own it! Nobody can do you like, well.. YOU! Show the world what only YOU can offer!
10, Allow yourself to be inspired and have fun!!!
Discovering your personal style should be fun and not viewed as a daunting task. Allow yourself to experiment and try things out. One of the easiest ways to revamp your style is to try to wear your already owned items in a different way. This can be an inspiring exercise! I also encourage you to allow yourself to be inspired by multiple sources such as magazines, tv, other bloggers or just people you know! I look at other bloggers’ pages ALL the time and I am constantly inspired! Relax, get creative and HAVE FUN!
I hope this post helped and that you enjoyed reading it. I know I enjoyed creating this content for you all! I will be doing more style tips/advice related posts this year so I am so excited! If you have any suggestions, leave me a comment below and feel free to share!
As always, XO and Stay FAB! ~ Stormie